#MondayMantra – Controlling The Outcome – Do You Think You Can Design The Result?

This is a bit of an elusive title, so I’m going to jump right in and shed some light on what I’m referring to. 

Controlling the outcome of anything is something that is desirable to us all of course, but that way of thinking can be destructive…

It took me a long time, but I adopted a philosophy, with the help of lots of people, that has served me well.  And it goes all the way back to something my father said to me as a boy, “if you can find a job that you like, you are going to be happier than 98% of the population.”  LA specifically is a city that is made up of fake things and fakers, and I find all of that stuff really damaging.

People get into careers, and the pressure to succeed in those careers makes them miserable.  I see it all the time when selling houses that these pressures make them trapped to their lifestyle, and then they fall into the trap of expectations.

Don’t confuse goals with pressure though.  Goals are a great thing when they are realistic.  Expectations are toxic.  If we are rooted in the results, and we don't get what we expected it weighs us down and eats away at us.

So, the short of it is - none of us can control the outcome, so the trick is to “be happy with the outcome no matter what happens.”  We aren’t in control of what happens, we are only in control of our actions.  For instance, I try and treat everybody identically.  I’m not looking for what I can extract from a relationship, instead, I’m looking for what I can give.  Then, whatever the result is I can live with it… and that my friends is freedom. 

“We have knowns and unknowns.  And the only thing we can control are the knowns.”  Everyone I meet will get professional and personal service, no matter what.  That is a known because I can control it. 

I want to finish with this… The moment you feel you are working just for money is the moment it’s over.  I’m never going to be chained in expectations and results.  If those are fueling my decisions, those are not the right ones.  I can assure you that.

I have one daily commitment, and that is, I must work hard every day and give it everything I've got, and then I stay out of the results.

The way you take control is relinquishing control.  

Thanks for watching and being part of the rebellion!

Pete